The Authentic Self Blog
A space to explore the patterns that shape how you relate to yourself, your relationships, and the world around you.
Here, you’ll find reflections and practical tools for understanding attachment, childhood trauma, relationship anxiety, nervous system patterns, self-worth, boundaries, and the journey toward greater self-trust.
My hope is that these resources help you understand yourself with more compassion and remind you that the patterns you’ve developed make sense in the context of what you’ve experienced. You don’t need to become someone new.
Healing is about reconnecting with the parts of yourself that may have gotten buried along the way and learning to trust your own inner wisdom again.
The Subtle Difference Between Authentic Connection and the Feeling of Being Chosen
Are you authentically interested in the person you’re dating or seeking the feeling that comes with being chosen? Folks who lean more toward anxious patterns on the anxious-avoidant attachment continuum tend to feel unworthy of love. So, they have an expectation that they must earn or gain the attention and value of an attachment figure (i.e. a romantic partner) to receive the love they crave.