Attachment Therapy in San Francisco, CA
online therapy for women with relationship anxiety and childhood trauma in California and Virginia
Root Into Your Secure Self. Rise Into Your Authentic Self.
Heal attachment trauma, overcome relationship anxiety, and finally feel secure being yourself.
You’ve spent your life being the person everyone needed you to be, wondering if you’ll ever be enough. Together, we’ll help you feel secure, confident, and worthy just as you are.
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection."
— Buddha
You’re exhausted from relationship patterns that leave you feeling anxious, unseen, and emotionally exhausted.
Therapy can help you heal the wounds beneath your relationship patterns and learn to trust yourself.
Finally feel
chosen worthy loved confident secure
How to Know if you Need Attachment and Trauma Therapy in San Francisco
Maybe you've spent so long trying to feel loved, chosen, and enough that you've lost touch with your own needs, your own voice, and the person you were always meant to be.
Does this sound familiar?
You soften or shrink yourself to please others, be “the chill girl” or to avoid conflict
You feel like you’re “too much” and “not enough” all at the same time
You have a gut feeling about something, but you’re quick to convince yourself you’re wrong if others push back.
You feel lonely despite having friends and family around you
You feel insecure in your relationships, especially romantic ones, compare yourself to others, and don't know what you bring to the table.
You feel like you should be able to handle this. So you keep pushing through, but you feel like you're about to fall apart.
And underneath it all…
You just want to be chosen for who you are.
There is nothing wrong with who you are. These patterns once helped you stay connected, safe, and accepted, but they no longer have to define your life. Healing is possible. Attachment based therapy can help you understand where these patterns came from and reconnect with who you are beneath them.
Meet Your San Francisco Attachment & Trauma Therapist
Overthinking, losing yourself in relationships, and constantly wondering if you’re enough is an overwhelming place to be.
I’m so glad you’re here.
I'm Alexis Warrington, LMFT, CCTP-II, an SF therapist specializing in childhood trauma, attachment, and difficult relationship patterns. I help women understand themselves, heal the wounds beneath their struggles, and reconnect with the parts of themselves they've had to set aside.
This work is personal for me. I didn’t just learn about attachment wounding and relationship anxiety from books. I know what it feels like to question your worth and wonder if you are enough. And I know how difficult it can be to change the patterns that have protected you for so long.
That understanding fuels the compassionate, nonjudgmental space I strive to create for every client. As I walk alongside you on this journey, you will feel seen, supported, and safe enough to reclaim the authentic parts of you.
Healing At the Root
I believe lasting change happens when we heal the root of our patterns, not just the symptoms. My evidence-based, mind-body approach helps you move beyond intellectual insight to create change you can actually feel.
Attachment based therapy helps you understand yourself.
Somatic therapy helps you connect your body and mind, and find safety within.
Parts work (ego state therapy, reparenting, inner child healing) allows you to accept yourself.
Compassionate, trauma-informed care helps you heal trauma and attachment wounds to feel safe and empowered in your present.
Work with me
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Do relationships leave you feeling anxious, insecure, or like you're constantly losing yourself? Tired of people-pleasing, codependence, or self-abandonment? Learn to break free from protective relationship patterns and create connections that feel safe, secure, and authentic.
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Anxiety isn't just overthinking, worry, and stress, it's often a nervous system that's learned to expect danger, even when you're safe. Together, we'll calm your mind, help your body feel safe, and address the deeper roots of your anxiety.
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Patterns don't just live in our thoughts and behaviors, they're held in the body, too. Somatic trauma therapy gently works with your nervous system to release the survival patterns keeping you stuck so you can experience greater calm, flexibility, and connection.
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Major life changes have a way of bringing old wounds to the surface. Together, we'll help you navigate this season with greater clarity, resilience, and a deeper connection to yourself.
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Healthy relationships begin with understanding yourself. Together, we'll strengthen your confidence, communication, and boundaries so you can create relationships that feel more secure and fulfilling.
Course:
Root to Rise:
Reclaim Your Secure and Authentic Self
Healing can happen outside of the therapy room too. This self-paced course gives you the tools to understand your patterns, support your nervous system, and reconnect with your authentic self.
Why Choose an Attachment and Trauma Therapist?
You've probably tried to understand yourself. Maybe you've read the books, listened to the podcasts, or even been in therapy before, but you still feel stuck in the same patterns. Working with an attachment and trauma therapist can help you:
✔ Feel at peace within yourself and learn emotion regulation.
✔ Heal the wounds that taught you had to earn love.
✔ Process unresolved trauma
✔ Trust yourself and set limits without guilt or fear.
✔ Stop abandoning yourself in the pursuit of love.
✔ become securely attached.
✔ Create a relationship with yourself that changes every relationship you have.
Therapist in San Francisco:
I offer individual therapy to people living throughout California and Virginia. Coaching and coursework is available worldwide.
FAQ’s
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You don't have to have experienced a single, obvious traumatic event to benefit from trauma and attachment-focused therapy. Trauma and attachment therapy can help if you want to create a deeper sense of security and self-trust. You don't need to know exactly what's wrong or have everything figured out before starting. We can explore that together.
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My fee for service is $165 per 45 minute individual session and $200 per 45 minute couples session. I offer a limited number of sliding scale slots.
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I am an out-of-network provider and currently offer private-pay services. I can provide you with a monthly superbill to submit to your insurance company for reimbursement. I recommend contacting your insurance provider to ask about your out-of-network benefits, deductible, and reimbursement rate.
I choose to remain out-of-network because I believe you deserve privacy, autonomy, and flexibility in your care.
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I am so happy you’d like to move forward! First step is to schedule a free 15 minute consultation call HERE (insert link to). During that call, we’ll briefly discuss what is happening for you that has lead you to seek support. I'll answer any questions you have, decide together if we are a good fit, and then we’ll discuss the logistics of moving forward.
You can also reach out via email at alexis@authenticself-therapy.com or send me a text at 415-715-9126. Looking forward to connecting!
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Our first session is a chance to slow down and get to know each other. We'll begin understanding what brought you to therapy and how I can help. There’s no pressure to tell me everything right away. Healing happens best when you feel safe, supported, and comfortable in the therapeutic relationship.
Begin Your Healing Journey With a San Francisco Attachment & Trauma Therapist
You deserve relationships where you don't have to earn your place, and a life where you don't have to abandon yourself to feel loved. Imagine what it would feel like to trust yourself, express your needs without guilt, and experience relationships without constantly fearing you'll lose them. That kind of change is possible.